Comparing Churches: Apples to Apples

31 05 2012

I am not commanding you, but I want to test the sincerity of your love by comparing it with the earnestness of others.  For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you through his poverty might become rich.  2 Corinthians 8:8-9

Generally, I have never liked comparing churches…for lots of reasons.  It is a thing wrought with pitfalls and other dangers.  I think comparing churches just fosters the already-prevalent attitude that churches are somehow in competition with each other for all the best people.  We all know better intellectually, but our actions and attitudes say otherwise.  I also do not like comparing churches because each local body of believers is dealing with its own special calling to a community or a certain people group or some other such “calling”, and the processes and programs should be specific to that calling, which makes comparing your church’s programs to my church’s programs an apples and oranges kind of thing.

But as with almost any other rule, there are exceptions to my rule against comparing churches.  I mean, seriously, if a particular comparison was OK with Paul, then who am I to question it?  Paul did not seem to hesitate in his second letter to the Corinthian church, comparing the generosity (in giving) of that church to that of the poorer Macedonian churches.

You see, there is something about “living generously” that transcends cultural differences or even differences of church size or Christian “flavor”.  It is the very heart of a church, and it has a way of leveling the playing field in any comparison.  The church who focuses on pouring itself into the lives of others, who focuses on being generous in giving and in meeting the physical needs around it, stands out…in any culture and in any demographic.  When Paul says he wants to “compare your sincerity with the earnestness of others”, he recognizes that this comparison has little to do with church size or with the particular needs of this community versus that community, or with language or with church government or structure.  No, Paul is putting his finger right on the very pulse of the church when he speaks of generosity in giving and ministering to others.  He is assessing a vital sign of that church, determining how “alive” it really is.  In a very strong sense, measuring a church’s “heart” for generosity (irrespective of the size of its membership or the size of its bank accounts) is a very real measure of life for that church…a very real measure of the Spirit of Christ in that church.

Shouldn’t we have clued into this reality from our reading of Paul himself?  Notice he spends precious little time in his letters to the churches talking about the things with which we in the church are obsessed.  There is simply not much there on facilities and grounds, nor on budget, nor on worship styles, nor on personnel costs versus program costs, nor on denominational politics and affiliations.  But without hesitation, Paul wades right out into comparing the apples of this church’s generosity with the apples of that church’s.

So, I believe it is a mistake to look at how another church handles its corporate worship and decide to do it the same way in your own church.  It is a mistake to ask why your church cannot do its children’s programming as well as that other church, or why your church’s buildings don’t rival that church’s.  It is a mistake to listen to another church’s pastor and wish your pastor would preach more like him.  But when you see another church living generously and giving sacrificially to its community, it is perfectly acceptable, even good, to ask, “why isn’t my church living that generously?”  It is the common calling to every church…it is a fair comparison…apples to apples.  Look around.  Ask the hard questions.  Make the comparisons.  It is OK to insist that your own church live as generously as the church across the street or across the world.

So, how about it?  How are your church’s apples?

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Dealing with Secret Sin…In Community

29 05 2012

Tuesday Re-mix -

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. 
See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24

Step 4: We make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

[I am using these Tuesday Re-mixes for a few weeks to think (again) about addiction to self-reliance and how that addiction is one of the biggest challenges to genuine community which we face in the American church culture.]

It was several years ago when a back injury made me finally give up my yardwork.  That was a difficult thing for me.  I actually enjoy yardwork…in my own yard, anyway.  So it was difficult for me to let someone else do it.  It is MY yard, and I know all of its nooks and crannies and secrets, and I certainly did not want some stranger coming in and caring for my yard.  But the biggest adjustment for me in giving up that little area of self-reliance was the fact that somebody else was going to get very familiar with all of the embarrassing hidden messes in my yard…all of those corners and hidden spots which were not well-groomed and which hid some not-so-nice things.

If you have ever had someone come in and clean your house, you have felt that same feeling.  They see everything…that junk drawer in the kitchen, that cabinet which hides stuff you haven’t seen in years, and that horrible, cluttered closet.  It is embarrassing!

Thinking about Step 4 in our recovery from the addiction to self-reliance, taking an honest moral inventory of our inner-most life is revealing.  Just like that secret cluttered closet in the house and that hidden ugly corner in the yard, our lives have secret areas of sin which are a direct result of our insistence on self-reliance.  Secret sin is a natural by-product of independence and anonymity.  Without anyone looking around in our thought life, we are free to have entire areas of our lives with no accountability at all.  Secret sin in my life is perhaps the surest evidence of my addiction to self.

That is why Step 4 is a very real step toward recovery for us.  The very moment we begin to let go of that privacy and independence and turn toward community (i.e., let someone else into our “yard” to start poking around), the recovery begins to feel very real…and a little painful.  But isn’t that the point?  Isn’t that why God created us with that need for community?  Without the help of others, when I rather depend completely on myself to live the life I am called to live, I am doomed to fail from the beginning, because none of us–NONE OF US–is capable of defeating our secret sin all by ourselves.  We need each other.

So, what about that secret sin in your life?  How long will you go on lying to yourself saying that, one day, you will just decide to clean it up and it will all be taken care of?  My friend, that day will never come.  No, as you take an honest moral inventory of all the secret sin your self-reliance has brought you, you can only come to one conclusion…self-reliance does not work.  You need a friend.  We all do.

© Blake Coffee
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What to Give the God Who Has Everything

24 05 2012

With what shall I come before the Lord
and bow down before the exalted God?
Shall I come before him with burnt offerings,
with calves a year old?
Will the Lord be pleased with thousands of rams,
with ten thousand rivers of olive oil?
Shall I offer my firstborn for my transgression,
the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul?
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.   
Micah 6:6-8

Father’s Day is nigh upon us…just a little more than three weeks away.  It is not too early to start thinking about what (for most of us) is the most difficult gift of the whole year to find.  What in the world will you give him for Father’s Day?  He is so very difficult to buy for!  Whenever he needs something, he just goes and gets it…what could I possibly get him that he doesn’t already have?  A tie?  Did I give him that last year?  Did I really give him a tie last year!?  How cliche is that!?  I am so embarrassed.

In The Gathering, we are wrapping up our study of Amos, Hosea, Isaiah and Micah this week.  Finishing with this passage out of Micah got me thinking about God and what He really wants from His church (from His bride) and what we could possibly give Him, and I wondered…What do you give the God Who has everything?

Some would answer we should give Him our very best gathered worship…excellence in music, in preaching, in communion, in corporate prayer…that we should give Him a truly amazing gathered worship expression week after week.  They might cite Psalm 22:3 (our God inhabits praise).

Others would answer the church should give Him our broken Spirits and contrite hearts…that what He really wants from us is moldable hearts.  They would cite Psalm 51.

Still others would argue that what the church should give God is everything.  After all, it all belongs to Him anyway!  They would argue that we should give Him our very lives and all they contain…that we should present to Him “our bodies as living sacrifices”.  They would cite Romans 12:1-2.

None of those would be wrong.  That’s the nice thing about serving this God…it’s not really the gift that counts, it is the heart behind the gift.  Cain and Able taught us that.

But Micah captures the very essence of what it is God really desires from His people.  Micah, it seems to me, has the answer for what to give the God Who has everything.  What God really wants from His church is simply that we do justice in the world, that we love and show kindness or mercy just like Jesus did, and that we walk humbly with God.  Somewhere in there is a pretty good strategic plan for your church, wouldn’t you say?  What would it look like in your church?  How can your local body of believers do better to give this great gift to God?  Are you up for it?

Or, you could just give Him another tie.  Your choice.

© Blake Coffee
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The Problem with “Letting Go and Letting God”

22 05 2012

Tuesday Re-mix -

Step 3: We make a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God.

[I am using these Tuesday Re-mixes for a few weeks to think (again) about addiction to self-reliance and how that addiction is one of the biggest challenges to genuine community which we face in the American church culture.]

Applying step 3 to our particular addiction (the addiction to self-reliance), feels a little bit like comedian Steve Martin’s simple process for becoming a millionaire…Step 1: go and get a million dollars.

For those of us who are addicted to self-reliance and independence, “turning your life over to God” has always been a bit of a troublesome concept.  Oh, it’s easy enough to say…and it was easy enough to do when we were 7 years old at children’s camp and our “life” consisted of  a bike, a broken G.I. Joe and an annoying little brother, all of which we would gladly “turn over to God” in exchange for Heaven.  Moreover, even the concept of turning our “will” over to God seemed like a small price to pay at the time, given the reward of spending eternity in Heaven with all the donuts and sports we could ever want (what? you didn’t get that promise in your package?).

But it didn’t take long to start growing up and watching our “stuff” and our wills expand to cover a great deal more territory.  Then, the desire for the applause of men and the insecurities which were beginning to haunt us caused us to turn more and more inward and to take more short-cuts and to work harder to control the environment around us in order to survive.  The more we strove to control our environment, the harder it became and the deeper our “addiction” became.  Interestingly, the better we got at being independent, the worse we got at actually relying on God…and now, when we hear preachers and church friends talk about “letting go and letting God”, we nod politely as if agreeing, but we don’t really get it.  Not really.

We don’t get it because we just have a hard time really trusting God (or even more so, God’s people) to meet our pressing physical and emotional needs.  Spiritual needs, sure…no problem there.  But the more practical things like finances and health and children and jobs and success and sexual desires and ambition and…well, you know the list…all those things we would rather handle ourselves.  We will gladly give God our Sundays (at least a few hours of them), but turning to God otherwise is a last resort for us.  It is what we do when there is literally nothing else we can do.  We know (intellectually) that God loves us and has our best interests at heart, but we just are not sure we wouldn’t rather handle these practical concerns ourselves.

So, for those of us in this particular group, step 3 in the 12-step process is more than just a next step in the recovery process…it feels an awful lot like the complete cure for our addiction!  No small step.  Forgive me, then, if I scoff a little at this “next step”.  I haven’t yet found the secret to really nailing this one down.  Have you?  Care to share?

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When Pastoral Authority Fades Away

17 05 2012

This is what the Lord says:

“As for the prophets
    who lead my people astray, 
they proclaim ‘peace’ 
    if they have something to eat,
but prepare to wage war against anyone
    who refuses to feed them.
Therefore night will come over you, without visions,
    and darkness, without divination. 
The sun will set for the prophets, 
    and the day will go dark for them. 
The seers will be ashamed 
    and the diviners disgraced. 
They will all cover their faces 
    because there is no answer from God. ”  Micah 3:5-7

You can call me a homer if you like, but I honestly think Josh Hamilton has maybe the sweetest swing in baseball.  His season thus far certainly supports that opinion.  Last week, his four-home-run performance against the Orioles became just another illustration (just to put that in perspective, that has only been done 16 times in all of MLB history…that makes it even more rare than pitching a perfect game).  But let’s be clear about those home-runs.  They do not happen because of Hamilton’s amazing backstory, and they do not happen because of his title or his position as a major league player, and they do not happen because he has somehow earned the respect of his team mates or of opposing players.  Those home-runs happen because of many long hours of perfecting a swing and then repeating that swing perfectly under the circumstances.  It is about sticking radically to that perfection and not wavering from it even a little bit.  When Hamilton does that, when he sticks exactly with that perfect groove, not adding anything to the well-rehearsed swing and not leaving anything out…when he does it exactly the way the swing was given to him, the power follows.

It should not surprise you that, in my work with conflicted congregations, the topic of “pastoral authority” comes up pretty often.  The pastor, after all, eventually gets thrust into the middle of pretty much every congregational conflict.  Finding himself (or herself) there, he/she then must begin to form some conclusions about the issues.  As soon as that happens, there are some who disagree with the pastor, and that almost always will eventually bring to the table the discussion about pastoral authority.  What does it mean, when does it “trump” all else, and is it the end of the conversation?

I would like to answer those questions by first asking and answering a different question: under what circumstances does pastoral authority fade away?

First of all, it seems to me that “pastoral authority” (whatever it means) is meaningless except as it is attached to decisions.  In other words, it is what a pastor says or does (or chooses not to say or not to do) which is either filled with authority or not.  The power of Josh Hamilton’s swing is only “in play” when he is actually swinging a bat.  It is pointless to talk about pastoral authority separate and apart from the specific decisions in question.

Secondly, then, pastoral authority becomes less a question about office or title and much more a question about the presence and power of God in a specific word or course of action.  The more careful a pastor is to speak exactly what God has given him/her to speak, the more authority those words carry.  But as a pastor gets away from the precision of God’s message or direction, the authority begins to fade.  Like Hamilton’s swing, it is not likely to be perfect every time…but when it is, the power (the authority) is there.

The scary thing, then, about pastoral authority is that (like the sweetness of a baseball swing) it is neither guaranteed nor permanent.  Any pastor worth his or her salt can testify to this.  It takes hard work and discipline and study and prayer to find the precision of God’s message in each lesson taught.  And when we get it right, it is so very right.  But when that hard work and discipline and study and prayer wane, so does the authority.

For a true shepherd, a genuine leader among God’s people, that understanding comes with great fear and trembling.  Just ask Micah…he will tell you.

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The Two “Higher Powers” in a Christian Addict’s Life

15 05 2012

Tuesday Re-mix -

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. Hebrews 12:1-2a

Step 2: We come to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

[I am using these Tuesday Re-mixes for a few weeks to think (again) about our addiction to self-reliance and how that addiction is one of the biggest challenges to genuine community which we face in the American church culture.]

For pretty much anyone following this blog, step 2 in our recovery from addiction to self-reliance seems like a no-brainer.  I know that all of you believe in a power greater than yourself and that you would call that power God.  You don’t need me to point that out to you here, nor to find some creative way of showing you that truth.

Instead, I want to challenge you to consider another higher power.

There is a higher power in our lives which co-exists with God, in fact, it exists by His hand and is ordained by Him and empowered by Him…even indwelled by Him.  It is a higher power which He has determined to use as a Spiritual authority in our lives and, without it, we simply cannot overcome our addiction to self-reliance.  It is a higher power which is absolutely critical to our growth, our ministry, and our very purpose in this world.  That higher power is…Christian community. Without it, we are rudderless in the chaotic seas of this dark world.

The simplest and most convincing evidence of this truth is this: you cannot think of a single hero of our faith who has been used by God in the age of the church and who lived and grew Spiritually outside of the church.  None.  I believe that fact is significant, don’t you?

Since the Day of Pentecost described in Acts 2, God has made a choice which He is both content and resolved to make: that all of his church will be grown and nurtured and will find meaning and ministry within the context of Spirit-filled community.  All of us.  Period.  You can search the scripture through and through and you will not find any evidence to the contrary.  Simply put, the community of believers is to be a “higher power” in all of our lives.

And to bring application to our specific support group, I suppose it goes without saying that we are powerless to overcome our addiction to self-reliance without learning to lean into community with other believers.  It has, after all, been God’s plan all along.

So, who are the heroes of your faith?  George Mueller? Corrie Ten Boom? C.S. Lewis? Dietrich Bonhoeffer? Brother Lawrence? Oswald Chambers? Mother Theresa? The entire cloud of witnesses who have come before us…all of them…every last one of them…testify to this truth.  They would never have found significance in their world outside of the influence and accountability of Christian community in their lives.  It served as a critical “higher power” through which God would mold them and shape them.  And that same God Who is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow insists on those same terms with you and with me.  We need only buck up and deal with it.  There is no plan B.

© Blake Coffee
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Being One of the Cool Kids

10 05 2012

Woe to those who go down to Egypt for help,
who rely on horses,
who trust in the multitude of their chariots
and in the great strength of their horsemen,
but do not look to the Holy One of Israel,
or seek help from the Lord.  
Isaiah 31:1

I pay $4.00 for a cup of Starbucks coffee, when I could pay half that elsewhere.  And I pay with my iPhone.  And I follow American Idol (best season ever!).  And I watch ESPN Sportcenter pretty much every day.  And I follow secular bloggers, like Seth Godin and Michael Hyatt.  I do most of these things because I want to be a part of this culture where I live…I want to understand it and to be accepted in it.  I want to have influence in it as well.  To be blunt, I want to be one of the cool kids.

I will also admit to you that I want this, even knowing that there are times and circumstances when it is not God’s first and perfect will for me.  What I mean by that is…being one of the cool kids may well be more important to me sometimes than it should be.  I try to be cognizant of that, but I am certain I sometimes miss the mark.  I know that I am capable of looking in the wrong places for my acceptance…making “alliances” for my security other than with the Lord.

Judah did that with Egypt.  In the face of certain discipline from God (at the hands of the Assyrians), rather than turning toward God and taking their medicine, they turned toward Egypt for acceptance and security.  God’s path for them was going to be difficult and inconvenient and painful, and they wanted options.  It was a pattern for them and it is a pattern for us as well, don’t you think?

I sometimes worry that the church is likewise guilty of this.  I think we can work so hard to be culturally relevant (to be “one of the cool kids”), that we miss God’s intention for us.  I think we must be careful about our “alliances”, i.e., those from whom we find our acceptance or our security.  We may not be tempted by horses and chariots so much, but I do know I have seen churches turning to other worldly things for the preservation of their institution.  For example, I have seen churches turn to financial security for their preservation.  I have seen churches turn to political power for their preservation.  I have seen churches relying upon the popularity of their pastor for their security.  I have seen churches dilute the gospel in order to be accepted as “one of the cool kids” by their secular community.

The point is, the revolution Christ started is about being loving but is not about being popular…it is about being relevant and practical, but it is not about selling out to cultural supremacy…it is about meeting needs but it is not about feeding consumers.  Sometimes, the line between these concepts  is a fine line to walk.  But walk it we must, wouldn’t you agree?

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