Your Ultimate Commendation (the One that Matters)

27 10 2011

Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? Or do we need, like some people, letters of recommendation to you or from you? You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone.  You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.  2 Corinthians 3:1-3

I will be the first to admit that I have validation issues…O.K., maybe not the first to admit it, but I do get to that admission eventually. :)  What other people think of me probably matters more to me than it should…words of affirmation are definitely how I feel loved (thank you, Gary Chapman).  Add to that my (mostly-healthy) competitive nature and then stir in my very American-public-school-achievement orientation, and you have a recipe for a man who is all about constantly assessing his successes versus his failures.  It is important to me.  Maybe it is important to you too.

I measure everything.  I measure my case load and my billings at work.  I measure my workouts and my sleep hours at home.  I measure my quality time spent with my wife and with my daughters (never enough).  I measure the conferences and speaking engagements I do, the writing time I have, the churches with whom I consult, and the budget dollars in my ministry.  I measure the attendance in The Gathering, and my teaching time there.  I measure my readership, my “hits”, my “click-throughs” and my subscriptions to this blog.  I am always assessing and reassessing and measuring the success and/or failure of all these endeavors.  I’ll bet you do as well.

The question is, in ministry, what does success look like?  How is it really measured?  I know you have already read many, many articles and posts on measuring success in ministry (if not, look here for one of my own).  But will you allow me this one simple reminder, straight from the apostle Paul himself?  The clearest testimony of the effectiveness of your ministry is the lives God has changed through it.  Ultimately, it is not the buildings you have built, the budgets you have grown and/or met, the attendance you have amassed, the books you have sold, or any other such measure…except to the extent that any of those things have actually changed lives in the past and are continuing to do so now.

In ministry, everything we do, every new direction we take, every step along the way, is ultimately aimed at changing lives.  If not, then it is a step in the wrong direction.  Those stories of changed lives are the only measures that really matter.  Those testimonies are the best evidence that we are getting it right.  All the other “indicators” may well be pointing the wrong way, but if lives are still being changed, then we have success.  On the other hand, all the other indicators may well be pointing the right way, but it just does not matter unless lives are being changed.  The lives changed by your ministry are the most important commendation you can have.

When it comes to all those other “indicators”, those of us in Christian service would all do well to remember that Jesus himself started his public ministry with huge crowds following him and ended it with just a hundred (or so) followers still hanging on…and it is His Spirit who is driving your ministry.  [*gulp!*]

© Blake Coffee
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Church that Makes No Sense at All

4 10 2011

Tuesday Re-mix -

So God said to Noah, “I am going to put an end to all people, for the earth is filled with violence because of them. I am surely going to destroy both them and the earth. So make yourself an ark of cypress wood; make rooms in it and coat it with pitch inside and out. Genesis 6:13-14

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5

When it comes to building churches, there is no shortage of conventional wisdom. And in matters of church growth, church finances, and (alas) church conflict, the “church world” is loaded with advice and counsel. Moreover, add to that the wisdom of the secular world about how to build a corporation or how to lead an army (much of which wisdom gets imposed on church leadership), and you could fill a library with all the ways that it makes sense to build a church.


But God is not impressed with our conventional wisdom…never has been. At a time when the world had never even seen rain before and over a project schedule of some 100 years or so, God had Noah build an ark. On dry land. In the middle of a wilderness. There was absolutely nothing conventional about it. In fact, Noah was surely considered to be a crazy old drunk by pretty much anyone who knew him during this time, and his “project” was 100 years of sheer nonsense.

So, as I consider how incredibly closely Noah had to be walking with the Lord in order to rightly understand his assignment and then fulfill it, I am captivated by the thought of just one church, one local body of believers, who are equally sold out and tuned in to God. Can you imagine the endless possibilities for them?

I believe that, as church leaders, we must all get comfortable with the fact that God will often call us to do something that utterly defies all conventional wisdom. He may give our church an assignment which makes no sense whatsoever, one which ultimately tests what we really believe about God. As leaders, we must be willing to embrace that nonsensical assignment, and we must teach our people to do so as well. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In fact, I would go one step further with this. If your church is considering a new ministry or other new direction and everything adds up perfectly and you can see every step of it already in place and there are no questions unanswered and it lines up completely with the world’s wisdom…I would at least question what makes us think it is from God?

I am not advocating chasing after God-sized dreams as a church without a clear sense of God’s direction. Imagine if Noah correctly heard that God was going to destroy the world but built the world’s largest storm shelter instead of an ark. It’s not enough to dream big. It has to be God’s idea, done God’s way in God’s time. It really would require extraordinary focus on Him through both individual and corporate prayer. It would require “walking with God” the way Noah did. And it would require being willing to have an entire community laughing at us and making fun of us because we make no sense whatsoever.

But, you know…I might just be willing to do it. You?

© Blake Coffee
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God’s Will and God’s Timing Go Together

30 06 2011

It has been an interesting Summer so far in the Coffee household. We’ve celebrated a high school graduation, a college graduation and a wedding (all in 3 weeks) and to top all of that off, my youngest daughter got hit (while driving) by a drunk driver. Timing is everything.

The car accident happened at an intersection. My daughter was actually the second car to go through the intersection. The drunk driver blew through a red light and totalled my daughter’s car. My daughter was spared any serious injury. If the drunk driver had come a second or two sooner, she would have missed us altogether. If she had come a second later, she would have done serious (maybe fatal) damage to my daughter. We have all thanked God for his perfect timing. Timing is everything.

Sometimes it takes circumstances like this to help us appreciate just how important God’s timing is. That is particularly true in the church.

I have lost count of how many conflicted congregations with whom I have worked who struggled in one way or another with God’s timing. Here are some examples:

Moving forward on a narrow majority “vote”…

Paralyzed by caution and missing an important ministry opportunity…

Forging ahead with huge changes without building necessary consensus…

Making the right decision in committee but fumbling the communication out to the rest of the church…

The pastor weighing in too soon on a controversial issue…

The pastor weighing in too late on a controversial issue…

TIMING IS EVERYTHING.

When considering questions of God’s will, Dad once told me, “God’s perfect will and God’s perfect timing always come together.” I think what he was teaching me was that, knowing WHAT God is doing is one thing, but knowing WHEN He is doing it is another thing altogether…and if we don’t know them both, then we don’t yet have God’s will. Those two things must necessarily go together. It is not enough to have a vision for what God is going to accomplish through our church. At some point before moving forward, we must also have a clear understanding of His timing, i.e., when and how quickly we must move in order to be a part of His plan. Being out in front of Him is a bad place to be. By the same token, lagging too far behind Him is also a dangerous thing.

Whatever your church’s process looks like for discerning together God’s will, it must surely include discernment of His timing too. Without that, bad things happen.

Nice lesson, Dad!

© Blake Coffee
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