A Peacemaker’s Advent: the Magi

22 12 2011

After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, “Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him.”  Matthew 2:1-2

At the risk of spoiling your nativity scenes, here are the facts about the magi (separated from the myths): (1) they probably were not kings, (2) we do not know how many there were, (3) they never saw Jesus as an infant, nor the manger, nor the shepherds, (4) we do not know their names nor their nationalities.  We actually know surprisingly little about them.  The sum total of what we do know, we learn from 12 small verses of scripture in Matthew’s gospel.  That is all.  But it is enough for us as peacemakers to continue to learn some important truths from the Christmas story.

These magi (however many there were), were apparently scholars and apparently familiar enough with Jewish prophecies to understand that the “king of the Jews” had been born.  They were also men of science, familiar enough with the night sky to recognize a star which did not belong there.  They were also shrewd seekers of Jesus, not thrown at all off track by Herod’s deception or malicious intentions.  These are all good qualities for peacemakers.

Peacemakers among God’s people are students of the Word.  I know I’ve already made this point in this series, but it bears repeating.  The truth of God’s Word is critical to peacemaking in His church.  Peacemakers therefore immerse themselves in the Word regularly…even in all the woes and warnings of Old Testament prophecies.

Peacemakers study the landscape of relationships and recognize things that do not seem to fit.  This is so much where the giftedness of peacemaking comes in.  We just have a gift for understanding what normal relationships look like, even with a “normal” amount of dysfunction and heartache…so when we see “abnormal”, it sticks out to us like a big red flag.  We see the expressions and hear the comments which simply do not add up.  We see the evidence that something is going on that is not as it should be…and we follow that evidence until we find the source.  The appearance of the star in the night sky mobilized the magi.  The appearance of broken relationships in the church mobilizes peacemakers.

Peacemakers look for Jesus, even in strange places.  It is not so much about asking “What would Jesus do?”  It is more about asking, “Where is Jesus now and what is He doing now?”  We learn to hear God speak through unusual places.  We learn to seek after the Spirit in every “player” involved and we learn to lean into people to find Him.  We learn that His still, small voice comes more often in the “babies” and the “children” among us than from the loudest speaking grown-ups.  And when we lose our way in the conflict, we patiently wait for the next night sky so that we can see a clear sign (again) from God.  He is, after all, faithful and true to point the way if we are watching and waiting.

This Advent season has been a special season for me.  I’ve never before seen all the lessons for peacemakers in this amazing story!  I am praying that your Christmas brings you peace and that God draws near to you in exciting new ways!

© Blake Coffee
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A Peacemaker’s Advent: Mary and Joseph

15 12 2011

Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.  But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”… When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife.  Matthew 1:19-21, 23

 The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be unable to conceive is in her sixth month. For no word from God will ever fail.”  “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.” Then the angel left her.  Luke 1:35-38

The Christmas story is filled with contrasts between those who rearranged their very lives in order to make room for the birth of the Messiah and those who either opposed His birth or were completely indifferent to it.  Mary and Joseph had their lives changed forever.  Their obedience and their ability to embrace a seemingly impossible circumstance set them apart.  Even more, it was their willingness to set aside their own pretty good plans in order to be obedient to God which makes them perfect illustrations for our “Peacemaker’s Advent” series.

Upon learning of Mary’s pregnancy, Joseph had a plan.  he respected the law but also had great mercy on Mary.  He would just divorce her quietly.  No public spectacle.  Follow the law but do as little harm as possible to Mary.  He had it all worked out.  It was actually a good and honorable plan.  And then God gave him a different plan…one fraught with risk and probable public humiliation.  Through a series of dreams, God would show Joseph a better way.

I started my peacemaking ministry to churches as an arrogant young lawyer out to teach all the simple-minded laymen in the church a thing or two about conflict resolution.  Having spent hundreds of hours in mediations and other conflict resolution forums, I felt confident that I had a good and honorable plan for dealing with conflict among God’s people.  Just a few huge disappointments later, God had my attention.  We would not be doing peacemaking the world’s way…we would be doing it His way.

Oh how I would like to be able to report to you that, like Joseph and Mary, I immediately stepped in line and started to get it all right.  I did not.  Frankly, I still do not.  But I am learning more and more that peacemaking among God’s people is not a process that lends itself to nice, clean formulas and protocols…rather, it is a dance…with God…and I am not leading!

Mary and Joseph are wonderful illustrations for us.  They demonstrate what it looks like to let go of our own very good plans in order to pursue the clear will of God, even when that will doesn’t make a great deal of sense to us or to the people around us.  As peacemakers among God’s people, there is no more important skill for us to develop than letting go and letting God do what only He can do.    It is a trust thing.  Merry Christmas, fellow peacemakers.

© Blake Coffee
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A Peacemaker’s Advent: the Shepherds

8 12 2011

When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child,  and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them.  Luke 2:17-18

The Shepherds had a pretty simple, but critical role in the Christmas story, right?  Go and observe, and then tell the truth about what you heard and observed.  They did not elaborate…they did not speculate about anyone’s intentions or possible motives…they did not add their own opinions into the mix.  They heard from the angels, observed the baby Jesus, and then they simply reported what they had heard and observed.  They did their job well…God took care of the rest.

As a peacemaker, I could learn a thing or two from the shepherds in the Christmas story.  I could learn to remind myself that my role in the peacemaking process is not complicated.  More times than not, I am merely speaking the truth in love.  The role is actually simple enough unless I find myself beginning to interject my own opinions and speculation about motives and behaviors.  That is when I get myself into trouble.

Peacemakers must speak the truth about what we have heard from God’s Word.  For this reason, faith-based peacemaking is different from the secular concepts of genuine mediation.  It is slightly less conciliatory and slightly more directive, at least in the sense of being grounded in the Word of God as the source of all truth and of all solutions.  Among Christ-followers, there is almost always a spiritual element to conflict.  Spiritual problems demand spiritual solutions…and spiritual solutions come from God’s Word.  For me to be an effective peacemaker in the church, I must be listening to the Word of God and I must be representing it accurately…just like the Shepherds  ”spread the word concerning what had been told them…”.  This places a responsibility on us, as peacemakers, to be in the Word of God and to be listening carefully to it.

Do not misunderstand.  I am not claiming we must become theologians.  I certainly am not one.  I am certain I have no desire to be one.  In fact, I often feel like I am at an advantage because I am NOT one.  While I have enormous respect for theologians, and I can see clearly our need for them and the value they add to the kingdom, I do not believe God’s Word was written to communicate solely to theologians…I believe it was written to communicate to all of us, with the empowerment of the Holy Spirit.  As a peacemaker, I need not be an expert in the original Biblical languages, but I do need to be in God’s Word daily and I need ears to hear and understand.  God’s Word, after all, is our source of truth among Christians.  And truth often becomes a fairly central part of peacemaking.

Peacemakers must speak the truth about what we have observed in the relationships at hand.  The Shepherds were told by the angels what they would find, and then they went and found it to be exactly as they were told.  They were witnesses, simply telling what they had heard and observed.  They did not argue, they did not have to “sell it” or polish it or spin it, they simply told what they had heard and seen.  Hard to argue with that.

As peacemakers, we observe relationships, and then we report to the players what we observe.  We do not slant the report and we do not spin it.  We do not speculate about how or why and we neither opine about fault nor judge.  ”This relationship is broken…you have said that this is what hurt you…I noticed you did this…I heard you say this…This is what scripture teaches about forgiveness…This is what scripture teaches about confession…etc.”  Observe and report.  Very much like the shepherds.

I suddenly have a whole new respect for those shepherds.  They understood their roles.  They performed them beautifully!

© Blake Coffee
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