How Much Do You Trust Your People?

2 02 2012

Jesus called his twelve disciples to him and gave them authority to drive out impure spirits and to heal every disease and sickness…As you go, proclaim this message: ‘The kingdom of heaven has come near.’  Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received; freely give.  Matthew 10:1, 7-8

I have a ministry.  Well, it belongs to God, not to me…but you know what I mean.  I have been entrusted with an amazing ministry and an amazing message about unity among God’s people.  I know the feeling of ownership of a ministry.  I know the pressures of stewardship of such a message.  And I know the stress of placing the reputation, the very name, of that ministry into other people’s hands.  I know what it feels like to send other people out in the name of Christian Unity Ministries, placing them in control of our reputation, and having little or no control over how they will exercise that stewardship.

So I am more than just a little bit amazed at what Jesus does in sending out the twelve to perform miracles in His name.  There was no tutorial about casting out demons.  There was no dress rehearsal for any of them to practice raising the dead.  He just gave them the authority, gave them a few verses of instruction, and sent them out.  Surely they did not all take to this task naturally.  There had to have been some humorous “fails” (like the one at the foot of the mountain in Matthew 17:16…I brought him to your disciples, but they could not heal him).  Nevertheless, Jesus empowered them, authorized them, and sent them out to do His Father’s work, and he exercised virtually no control over how they did it.

Pastors, leaders, do you do the same with your people?  Do you see enough evidence of the Spirit in them to trust Him to lead them?  Do you trust your people to go out in the name of Christ (and in the name of your church) to do ministry?  Here is how Erwin McManus described this philosophy in his pastorate of Mosaic (from An Unstoppable Force): “I am often asked if we monitor people to insure their adherence [to their membership commitments to serve].  And the answer is no…It’s amazing how much people can accomplish if you’ll simply have confidence in them and call them out to give God the very best of their lives.”  I believe it is McManus who goes further to describe his role as pastor to be very much like lighting fuses in his people and waiting and watching for the Spirit in them to explode into ministry.  They just need to be called out and sent out.

If you are a pastor, I know there are aspects of that metaphor which make you terribly nervous.  As the one who will ultimately be held responsible for their ministry actions, you no doubt feel a need to control them…after all, you cannot have them embarrassing the church or putting the church at risk, can you?

As a church attorney, I know that is a legitimate concern.  I know there is the possibility that they will mess up royally, that they will bring humiliation and liability to the church as a result of their poor judgment or bad acts.  I know there must be some accountability, some level of control over them.  I know you cannot just turn them loose to go out and do good things in the world, to go out and become the ministers God is calling them to become.  That would be reckless and ill-conceived.  Of course you cannot do that…

…but Jesus did.

I’m just sayin’…

© Blake Coffee
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Welcome to Ministry. What Exactly Did You Expect?

26 01 2012

When Jesus saw the crowd around him, he gave orders to cross to the other side of the lake. Then a teacher of the law came to him and said, “Teacher, I will follow you wherever you go.”  Jesus replied, “Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.” Matthew 8:18-20

It seems to me that the scene has by now played out for me at least a hundred times.  I am counseling with a pastor who has been put through the wringer by his congregation and has been maligned and injured and his family has been as well.  He has fallen victim to the church at its very worst and he now has the scars to show for it.  He expresses to me his utter dismay and surprise and talks about how seminary simply did not prepare him for this.  His wife expresses shock that God’s own people could behave so badly and that this was NOT what she signed on for when she agreed to marry a pastor.  I listen, and I weep with them, and I grieve for them…and then I think to myself, “Welcome to the ministry.  This is it.  Welcome.”

Jesus was always pretty clear about the downside to following Him…the cost would be great, the sacrifice extraordinary.  He never sugar-coated that.  He was completely unapologetic about it throughout his entire ministry.  So, I suppose my thinking has always been, “If that is true for every follower of Jesus, how much more so for those called out to shepherd other followers of Jesus?”  Vocational ministry, in short, is simply not about comfort.  It is about ministering to a bunch of poorly-behaved, stinky sheep who bite and who hurt you and who get it all wrong at least as much as they get it right.  On top of all that, if you happen to be of certain Christian persuasions, you have to add poverty and celibacy to that list of sacrifices!

This is about the point in my counsel where many younger pastors might interject, “Wow, Blake.  We’ve got to work on your bedside manner.”  Believe me, I know well that this sounds grim.  I know that it is depressing, especially if you are already down for the count.  And I know that it is not necessarily helpful counsel in some circumstances.  But seriously, there is a reality about ministry which I am not certain our seminaries and Bible colleges are getting right…I am not convinced we are really painting a realistic picture of life among God’s people when we send our young men and women out onto the field with visions of large churches, large salaries, large influence, and large prestige.  Jesus would cringe at that picture!

Ministry among God’s people was never intended to be easy.  It is hard.  And the rewards are few.  But my, my…they are rich, are they not?

© Blake Coffee
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Don’t Worry, Be Happy

12 01 2012

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” Matthew 6:25-27

I am not a worrier…at least I do not think I am. Oh, I do worry. Some. But I don’t think of myself that way. Still, maybe I am a worrier but just not very self-aware. Could that be possible? If so, then maybe I actually worry a great deal more than I think I do. In fact, maybe it is a huge problem for me but I am just not very connected to that reality. And maybe I worry so much (without realizing it) that I could actually have a heart attack or a stroke one day because of it. Maybe I am killing myself slowly every single day and don’t even realize it. It is possible, you know. I could die any day now.

:)  See how easy it is to worry?

I am not claiming any expertise as a worrier, but I am definitely no stranger to the notion. I have had a few stressful seasons in my life. I am actually entering a new one right now. Tomorrow, my ministry’s Board of Directors will consider approving the largest, most challenging budget in our ministry’s history. If they do approve it, it will also signal a scary shift for me. It will be a critical step toward becoming less and less financially dependent on my self-employment (as a lawyer) and more and more dependent upon this ministry to meet my family’s needs. Less dependent upon God meeting my needs the way He always has through my law practice, and more dependent upon God meeting those needs in entirely new and different ways. Scared? Worried? You bet!

In my experience–and this could just be me–it just does not help me much to know I should not be worrying. You do me no favors with your simple counsel, “Blake, don’t worry” or “Blake, stop worrying”. How, exactly do you do that? How do you just not worry? “Don’t worry, be happy” just does not work for me. No, in my experience, if I want to stop worrying, I have to treat it like a bad addiction and replace that behavior with another, more positive behavior. I suspect that may have been Paul’s experience as well. Look at his counsel to the Philippian church in chapter 4 of that letter: Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  See? Paul would say that all the energy we are using to worry is energy we could be using for prayer.

That is the solution to the worry problem, isn’t it? We must replace worrying with praying.  That is the productive behavior.  That is the behavior which draws us closer to God and which slowly but surely helps us to see our world and our circumstances through His eyes.  Come on, you know it’s true…you always wonder where you will find the time to have the kind of prayer life you know you should have.  Just take the “worry” time and use it for prayer.  Think about all the hours each week that will buy you!

As for me, I have prayed more for this ministry in the past few months than ever before.  And through those prayers, God has given me a peace.  It is not an unrealistic, naive kind of peace.  It is a deep, grounded peace that God is still in control…still on His throne, that He still loves me and that He still has much to do through this ministry.  Prayer has been a good thing for me in this!  Oh there is much work to be done, and it will be hard in some cases.  It will not all be happy times.  But there will be joy, and peace, and we will see God do great and mighty things.  Not because we worried, but because we prayed.

So I am changing my tune.  ”Don’t Worry, Be Happy”?  Not so much.  ”Don’t worry…PRAY!”  Now that is worth singing about!

© Blake Coffee
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