Tuesday Re-mix – This is a popular post from last year, updated and resubmitted for your consideration and comments.
(This is the fourth in a series of posts from Philippians 4 on dealing with church conflict).
Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Philippians 4:5
I believe unresolved anger is one of the big obstacles to the church today. I find it to be especially problematic in conflicted congregations. It is awfully difficult to effectively communicate with one another when one side of the issue is constantly pushing the buttons of the other side. It makes this notion of gentleness a tall order.
You see, as long as it was all about me and my schedule and my convenience, gentleness was nowhere to be found. But when I was (gently) reminded to consider how the other person was feeling, gentleness was much easier to come by.
St. Francis of Asisi prayed, “Lord, help me more to understand than to be understood.” That, it seems to me, is central to the whole concept of gentleness…taking the time to fully understand where the other person is coming from, what is causing his/her pain. Chances are, find the root cause of the other person’s pain and you will find it much easier to let the Spirit’s gentleness lead out in your relationship with that person.
This is some fantastic counsel from Paul, who just wanted us to navigate our way through conflict (and pigtails) in a way that brings honor and glory to God.
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